I was with my ex-partner for 12 years after initially meeting at work. If I am honest, the relationship was never quite right. He was angry and emotional as he was not allowed to see his children from a previous relationship.
"I grew up in Brisbane and have travelled quite a bit. I attended university and have a bachelor and post graduate degree. I met my ex-partner through whilst travelling and we had an intense and romantic affair. He moved to Australia to be with me and I thought that his relocation for me meant he really loved me but I was to discover slowly that this was not the case. It took me years to face the denial that I had built up around my romantic dream of having someone to love me."
"After a month of dating he asked me to move in with him and I happily agreed so that I could get away from my sister. We started living with his parents. After four months of dating, he proposed to me. A month later we moved into our first house together and three months later he asked if we could try for a baby."
I was a young woman from an Asian country who had moved to Australia to marry the man I loved. He started to become violent very early in our marriage. However it wasn’t until I saw an ad about domestic violence that I realised that’s what was happening to me. At first I was ashamed to talk to anyone about it, and had no idea what my rights were, but eventually things got so bad that I got in touch with a domestic violence service.
Nicole gave a moving and inspirational speech at Micah Projects Young Mothers for Young Women International Women's Day event in March, 2011.